Everybody I know (or don’t know) is getting married. It’s almost like a new trend. Just now Amit told me, Abhishek is getting married today. What is wrong with everybody?
Can you believe, most of the forwards circulated, much talked about topic is “the ill effects of marriage”, even then people don’t learn. Why wouldn’t they listen? If they are blinded and deafen by, the so called, LOVE, I can understand. But why otherwise? I have heard there is no freedom of speech after marriage, there is continuous nagging and 24X7 demanding after marriage, no limit to expectations. I have also heard, girls tend to eat more and gain weight after marriage. Why would you want to give up all your freedom, shopping, dancing, camping with friends, clean house, never cooking, no arguments, travel, entire bed, and high self esteem?
In any other relationship, at least there is a way out, but there isn’t any in marriage. Maybe that’s why it’s called “Wedlock”. Two people are locked in it forever.
If two people are truly in LOVE and know they are made for each other, well and good. They have all the reasons to marry as soon as they get “License to Wed”. But if they are not in love, the only reasons I can think of, for them to get married at an early age are: Most of them are true for women.
1. Parental pressure
2. Want to live an easy life by marrying a millionaire
3. Bored of working. Now want to quit and sit back at home and relax.
4. Pressure from society. When you see all your friends getting married and don’t want fingers to be pointed at you.
5. Love attending weddings, so thought of attending your own wedding. This would include love getting dressed up.
6. When nobody listens to you, and you have a feeling that at least after marriage your partner would.
7. To kill boredom and loneliness
8. To find a bunch of whole new relatives. You get a mother, a father, a few sisters-in-law, half dozen cousins, and countless relatives for free. Basically to socialize. These relatives could also help you with your career.
9. Because it’s one of those logical steps in the sequence of life. Check job, check car, check marriage.
10. Want to give it a shot
11. For all the gifts you will get at the wedding.
“Wise men say, only fools rush in”. Wise men also say the following:
Quote 1: After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together.
Quote 2: “I’ve had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn’t.”
Quote 3: I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
Quote 4: The most effective way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once.
8 comments:
hehe........ cant just stop laughing but i am really confused for in this whole mail i saw a girl revolting to someone for its her time to get married now hehe...
its more of your 11 comandments inside dj
good post really enjoyed it waise i am proud to hear that your concepts for marriage is crystal clear(in the absolute other side of the coin)
loved your post keep writing!!!!!
Hi darling,
A good post with radical ideas. Marraige is not all that bad. After all ur mother & me have put up together for the last 27 years and we are quite happy about it. I think marraige is nothing but adjustment and that is what is most important in the formative years of ur marraige ie about the first seven to eight years. After that it is real fun to be together and share all ur happy & sad events with someone who would understand. Let me assure u, you will change ur opinion after marraige. But a good thought process and an excellent blog. Nice ingenuiuty. Keep up ur writing. Love u.
@Deepaish: Thanks, but I honestly cant understand the reason...
@ Dad: Wat??? u have been married for 27 Yrs??? OMG, where was I all this while??? WE must have a big bash this year.
The most cliched question people ask me is this "When are you getting married"..Drives me Nuts!!! People dont understand.. Husband dukhan main todi na milta hai.
Marriage is full of compromises and adjustments..If u find the right person the rollercoaster ride is easier or else ur doomed...Its a Gamble all together
Nice post...
Cant really agree ppl actually marry to quit workin... considering the fact that both spouses work like mad these days. Anyways this seemd more like a blog to hint at ur parents more than anything... lol..cheers.
@tabitha: I can totally empathize...
@Madan: now c, u got it, but they being my parents, didn't... hehehe... thanks
Nice post.. a good way to look at things! I can't take a stand until I am married.. :P And thats not going to come any soon..
Hope your blog never reaches the "Dead End"... Keep writing.
Indian marraiges may a tad bit outdated but they have worked.. Well atleast in most cases.. Not that I like the whole Indian "Arranged" Marraige system...
Anways.. You don't need to stop doing something because are getting married. If anything marraige should give the extra bit of leverage to do what you like doing most..
And if you are worried about losing out on the precious space on your bed.. just go out an get a bigger one.. if you still feel that "Space is Not enough" just kick partner off and pretend to sleep walk... :P
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